Failure to study partners during courtship causes marital breakdowns – Culture Enthusiast warns

A culture enthusiast, Jonathan Aborah, has attributed the increasing rate of marital breakdowns in modern times to couples’ failure to thoroughly study each other during courtship.

Speaking on the Big Mike Breakfast Show on Thursday August, 14, Aborah said marriages in the past were more stable because couples took the time to investigate each other’s backgrounds, often with active involvement from their families.

“Going into courtship, the families were involved, and they would dig deep, conducting proper background checks to safeguard the couple before they got settled.” He noted.

He contrasted traditional practices with present-day trends, observing that modern relationships often develop outside the influence of families, with much of the interaction taking place on social media.

“Now, marriages are contracted without family involvement. Social media plays a huge role in courtship, partners spend time chatting on WhatsApp, making video calls, and doing things on their own. The family is often brought in only when a problem arises, such as an unplanned pregnancy, and this breeds problems,” he explained.

Aborah cautioned young people, particularly women, against focusing solely on material benefits when choosing a partner, stressing that such considerations do not guarantee a successful marriage.

“These days, if a lady is going to choose a man, she looks on the surface. She doesn’t consider other qualities. It’s about whether you have cash, can buy tilapia regularly, or top up her phone data. If you can’t do these things, she may not choose you.” He said.

He urged couples to revive the culture of deliberate courtship and family involvement, which he believes could help reduce the high rate of failed marriages. 

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